Here's
the truth: some people are crazy. Here's a reason why: pride. Because of my
job, I spend a large amount of time with people. I hear people talk all the
time about how they want deeper relationships with people, with their family
and with God. They'll say that they are honesty seeking God. They'll say they
truly want to be healed or transformed. They'll say "God is changing
me" and yet I see zero change in their lives.
As a
pastor and as a Christ-follower, it is my duty to disciple people. That means
to help people become or understand how to become who Jesus would be if He were
them. (The Spirit does the "become-ing") This process, although
different with every person, requires me to do something uncomfortable:
challenge people. In order for someone to grow, they must be challenged. This
is uncomfortable, this is awkward, this is... well... challenging.
I believe
(this especially applies to Americans in the 21st century) that our pride has
prohibited our ability to grow. The dream says, "You can be whoever you
want to be. Build your life. You are the best person alive. You are the main
character in this story." We are Americans so obviously we are the best.
Social media is how we communicate now days and it gives us the unique ability
to project something we aren't. We can use the best words, poses and filters so
that the image people see is the most polished, perfect version of who we
really are. This is why people will often say they want challenge but then
realize that challenge means taking a look at the wrecked, broken person we
really are, revealing that and stepping out of your comfort zone to change.
Hiding behind our pride allows us to bury who we really are. This prohibits our
ability to change or let God transform who we are.
I have
numerous people in my life that say they want God to heal them. They say that
they want to be challenged and they say they want deeper, more fulfilling love
in their lives. They ask me to challenge them so I do it. Their response goes
one two ways typically. 1. They shut down. They don't actually know what it
feels like to dive deeper or even take a look at the deep end of the pool. 2.
They snap. They get defensive because they recognize that being challenged and
diving deeper means stripping down to their undies and seeing who they really
are in order to dive in. As Walk The Moon puts it " The real life love is
under the mirror of the surface." The love that we want in our lives, the
change we want God to do, becoming the person you were created to be is under
the surface and it requires you to dive in head first in order to achieve it.
Once again, the thing that stops this from happening is pride. We've become
cozy and comfortable with where and who we are. Change means that we might have
to shed some of the things we hold on to.
The
Scriptures speak frequently about humility. "Humble yourselves before the
Lord, and he will lift you up."-James 4:10, "God chose the lowly
things of this world and the despised things- and the things that are not- to
nullify the things that are, so that no one may boast before him." -1
Corinthians 1. "Sitting down, Jesus called
the twelve and said, ' Anyone who wants to be first must be very last, and the
servant of all.'" -Mark 9:35. There are dozens of verses and teachings
against pride in the Bible. The religious leaders of Jesus time were known for
their pride. They made others look bad so that they could appear to be
better than they were. Jesus is constantly attacking them and pointing out that
their pride will keep them from entering into the kingdom of God.
Jesus tells stories like the parable of the two sons (Matt
21) in which he tells the prideful religious leaders that the tax collectors
and prostitutes (the very people they look down upon and judge) will enter into
the Kingdom before them. Jesus heals a man who had been sick for 38 years. 38
years! Jesus first words to this guy is “Do you want to get well?” The man has
been sick for THIRTY-EIGHT YEARS and Jesus’ first words are to ask him if he
truly wants to be well.
Some of us (the people I’m writing this blog for.. which
includes my self) do not want to get well. We know things aren’t well. We can
sense and feel the brokenness in our lives. We ache with pain from a broken
heart or the fears from our insecurities but at the end of the day, we don’t
want to be well. Being well means acknowledging you are unwell. It means
setting aside your pride and humbly saying, “I’ve tried to do things on my own
and I’m just not good enough to make it happen. I need God.”
There are two questions that I try to ask the people in my
life who say they want to dive deeper. “What is God saying to you?” and “What
are you going to do about it?” It’s that second question that people get hung
up on. I have a friend who has had their world rocked for years. They
continually believe lies about themselves and lose their identity. They put
themselves in compromising situations and as a result, they get hurt over and
over again. They are extremely insecure, immature and broken because of it.
They know this. They tell me on a regular basis that they’re seeking God and
want to be healed. I’ll ask them “so what are you going to do about it?” and
they immediately turn on defense mode and get angry with me for asking. I’m
asking them to make the change that they say they want to see but their pride
wont let them do it. She doesn’t want to be well because being well means
letting go of the image we relentlessly project.
So, what is God saying to you and what are you going to do
about it? Will you let go of your pride, admit you can’t make it on your own
and humbly submit to the only thing that can make you well? Or, will you hold
on to who you are? Will you hold on to what’s comfortable? Will you continue to
project a fake version of yourself so that people wont ever see the real thing?
Do you want to be well?
I’ll end with this: what if humility is the point? What if
being low and humble and vulnerable is the end goal? Being born and dying:
these are the two biggest events in life. They’re also the messiest and least
dignified. We come into this world and leave it naked, alone, vulnerable and with
nothing. No filter, no perfect tweets, no make-up- none of that matters to us
in those moments. Who we are, how cool or significant or relevant people thought
we were, how well we hid our broken hearts does not matter. All that matters in
those moments is who God is and what He says about us.
Be healed.